Confidence: The freedom of doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.
Self: The identity, character, or essential qualities of any person or thing.
Self-confidence is not something you learn overnight. Everything you think and say and do affect your confidence and self-esteem. To establish self-confidence, you must be willing to take control of your life and whatever is holding you back. If you have a setback, do not let it get the best of you. Overcoming the obstacles and challenges you face daily transforms you. Believing in the validation of ourselves before we can take any validation from society. Stopping and taking an internal survey is one of the few things you have control over.
“Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.” -Tina Fey
No one is born with “confidence” or self-confidence, self-love, or high self-esteem. We all have flaws, it’s just flawed differently. This image of a “perfect woman” is NOT REAL. Confidence comes from self-love. I’ve been learning to love myself more than ever. I never looked up to the skinny girls that were my size, I always been fonder of “confident” women. No matter what size, you will know when you see a self- confident woman. You should always take pride in the amazing features you were born with despite what we see in the media which finds every excuse to kill your confidence.
“A girl on fire is somebody who is completely herself.” — Alicia Keys
The shoot was inspired by my continues path to “Self-discovery” and “Self-Confident”. I learned that day before the pictures can come out the way I like I had to be comfortable with my own body. It is said that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. What is beautiful to one person may not be as radiant to another. With that being said, build yourself, nobody else can build you. “Everything that you want to be you already are, and you are simply on the path of discovering it.” — Alicia Keys
Advisory/Warning Note: This is my journey and how I gained my confidence. The advice given on this blog may not work for you. It is called self-love and self-confidence. You must find what works for you.
Image by Kevin Lukusa